"How to Choose the Perfect Christmas Gift for Her,"

by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ CoachT


It's that time of year again, time to choose the Christmas gift for the woman you love.  Which one are you?  Which Santa Claus is going to get cookies and milk and which one is going to sleep on the couch?

star.gifFred's apprehensive.  The last several occasions Beth has ended up really angry with his gift choices, for reasons he doesn't quite understand, but he's a guy, he'll figure it out.  Fred should be apprehensive.  He's about to do the same thing again, make the same mistake, get the same result, only, as you know, when it comes to your wife, it isn't the "same," it gets worse.


star.gifArturo's got it knocked.  He's enjoyed his new power lathe so much, he knows Maria will love getting a cuisinart, instead of having to chop things by hand.


star.gifMy coaching client, Vladimir,  has been studying Emotional Intelligence.  He's been learning how to figure out what Katya really likes.  Of course he could ask, but he likes to thrill her with nice surprises and he's getting very good at it.  I gave him some exercises and he's increased his skill in figuring out how to please the woman he loves.   When they're being intimate, she'll say to him sometimes, "How did you know that's what I wanted?"


star.gifBenny's not worried at all.  He's sending his secretary out to do the shopping for his wife.  It's a very smart and logical thing to do, he thinks.   Anyway, he's more worried about why he didn't get the promotion at work, and why his review said he needs to improve his "soft" skills, his Emotional Intelligence.


star.gifEdward's tired of trying to please and is in denial.  He keeps saying he'll go shopping and do it right this year, not do what he usually does - putting it off till the last minute, then running out and grabbing something.  She won't like it anyway;  she never does.   Besides, it's the end of the year, and he hasn't made his insurance sales quota and he's worn out worrying about what he ought to be doing in that area.  He kept meaning to do it right this year, but here it is, November


The holidays pressure every area of our life.  Take a moment to think about what's going on, and to organize yourself for the coming holidays.   Get some EQ coaching if you need help with getting organized, coping with the holidays, managing the family get-togethers, and so forth.

And why not make it your New Year's resolution to work on your Emotional Intelligence in 2004 so you don't go through this again next year?  A good place to start would be with the Don't Disappoint Her Again T EQ learning program.

Everyone needs to be good to themselves for the holidays, number one priority, and men have a special burden of pressure this time of year - unless you learn how to turn it around to fun, peace and joy!  You have choices.


©Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ CoachT, .

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